Did you know that some of the money behaviours we have now as adults, are buried deep in our subconscious as a result of the experiences we had as children?
As our brains were growing, we absorbed the conversations we heard around and attitudes to money from those around us that helped to form our money beliefs we have today.
When you reflect on your own childhood, did you experience hearing phrases such as “money doesn’t grow on trees”, or perhaps “money is the root of all evil”?
Another common one is “don’t ask for anything because we can’t afford it”.
Perhaps you didn’t actually hear any conversations as they were held behind closed doors but you FELT the tension when there were money issues as you were growing up. Did you sense tension in the room because of poor choices being made that resulted in withheld communication between your parents? Was there anger and resentment between them that you knew was because of money but didn’t know why?
Not all communication is verbal. You were exposed to what you saw, what you heard and what you felt. Perhaps repeatedly. For many years. So often that it became the norm, and you grew up thinking that’s the way things are with money…
As a result, this could be why YOU do money the way you do subconsciously.
The thing is, your parents most likely were previously exposed to their parents’ influences, so they didn’t know anything different either.
Can you see a pattern here?
It becomes a pattern that continues through families unless something changes.
Behavioural Money Coaching will help you see your relationship with money today isn’t necessarily all your fault. It can be the result of generations of conditioning that is deeply imbedded into your subconscious you may not even be aware of.
One thing to be mindful of though is…
Your children are having the same experience now as you did, unless you decide to rewrite your family’s money story.
They are hearing you.
They are seeing you.
They are feeling the energy in the room.
And they are absorbing your money behaviours into their brain as if it is the norm.
The thing to ask yourself is, “Is this something I’m happy to pass on to my children or is it something I need to change so they don’t repeat MY behaviours?”
I know how confronting that question is to ask yourself.
I have been in your shoes and am working hard to be much more conscious in my money decisions, so my sons and their children don’t have the same experiences I did. They are adults now so even though I did my best as I raised them, I didn’t know what I didn’t know, and am sure I passed on some traits from MY childhood subconsciously.
We are having much more open money conversations now than we ever did so I’m sure me transforming my relationship with money is having an impact on them which will continue to improve for years to come.
Working one on one with clients, I can help you identify and replace these patterns through my exclusive program Finding Your Money Brilliance, where we shine a light on these imbedded behaviours to bring them out into the light. You can then decide if what we uncover is something you want to take forward with you or replace them with more empowering behaviours to create a new money normal for you and your family.
It’s not late for any of us. You can break the pattern now by consciously making different choices and have your children benefit from you transforming your relationship with money, just like I did.
Inspired action today creates your (and your family’s) tomorrow.